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The Longest Month – Keeping My Chin up During the Last Month of Pregnancy

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I will admit, right off the bat, the last month of pregnancy is no walk in the park!  The first trimester was HARD, and for me it was very very hard.  The last month is not like that, it’s different.  The last month is an emotional rollercoaster mixed with an achy and uncomfortable body that is growing larger and squishier by the minute.  The last month is sitting on edge wondering, “will my water break today, here in this restaurant, for all to see?”  The last month is wishing you could just stay at home in case labour happens to start, but going crazy being at home because you are only thinking of the upcoming BIG EVENT! The last month is a big ball of string all wrapped up just waiting for some scissors to come along and cut that single thread that will cause the entire ball to unravel.

So how have I dealt with all of this?  I can’t say it has been easy, but I have found some strategies that have helped me deal with all of these big emotions and big life changes.  Hopefully they can help you too!

1.  Reminding myself that babies have their own timeline and their own agenda.  No matter what I wish for, desire or dream of. No matter what old wives tales I use to try and get this baby moving, this little baby is not going to budge until they are good and ready!  Reminding myself of this, giving myself over to my baby, allowing them to make the decision, takes it out of my hands and out of my control.  It helps me accept that somethings in life are just going to be as they are going to be, no matter what!

2. Acknowledging that baby still needs time.  If labour hasn’t started yet than baby is not ready to come! For whatever reason, this little pickle still needs some time to cook, and is probably super duper comfy floating around in that warm little pool, chilling out, listening to the muffled sounds of the world go by.  As eager as I am to meet this little person, I love them too much to insist they be yanked out  before they are good and ready (unless there are safety concerns, of course!)

3.  Hypnobirthing.  Hypnobirthing scripts are amazing!  You get to lie down or sit back with your eyes closed, relax deeply, and listen to amazing affirmations and stories about your body, your birth and your baby.  I mean, how fantastic right!?  You come out of your relaxation feeling refreshed, renewed and altogether more accepting of this beautiful miracle that is pregnancy and child birth.  If you haven’t looked into hyonobirthing, I highly recommend you do!

4.  Reminding myself of all the things I can get done before baby comes!  Oh ya, when baby comes I won’t have time to wipe down those cupboard doors, or clean under the kitchen sink, or wash all the windows! I won’t be able to have a nice long soak in a hot tub without interruption!  Remembering this helps me take advantage of the time I have now to clean, organize and relax!  It helps me realize that maybe it was a good thing baby decided not to turn up today.  But tomorrow would be nice 😉

5.  Soaking in those baby kicks and growing belly before they are gone.  On days where I am feeling really fed up, when I have had false contraction after false contraction, and my body and mind are really just ready to give birth, I try to remind myself that these are the last days where I will hold my baby inside of me, feeling their tiny kicks and turns, rubbing my belly and talking to this little person who I have grown so lovingly all of these months.

 

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Feeling just a bit fed up!

So although I have been in the “latent phase” of labour now for over a week, and I am achy, tired and emotional, these techniques do really help!  They help bring some calmness to my day, some serenity to my mind, and grant me a bit more patience to continue on.  Before you know it, this little bean will be here, in full force.  This love that has been growing inside of me will burst forth with fury and my days will be forever changed.  Oh I cannot wait for that, I honestly can’t. But I must, and I will.  Pregnancy is a marathon of the body and mind, and I am going to win this race!

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Do you have any tips or suggestions for making it through that last month of pregnancy!? Let me know in the comments or send me a message ❤  Sending you lots of love for a happy and healthy pregnancy, and beyond!

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12 thoughts on “The Longest Month – Keeping My Chin up During the Last Month of Pregnancy”

    1. Thanks Emma! I am trying to get as much rest as possible, while also finishing up chores that I want completed before baby arrives!
      I can’t wait to meet my little one, and know it will all be worth it once they are in my arms ❤

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    1. Congratulations your pregnancy Rachel! Yes it is so hard not to get antsy and impatient in the end. What I also find the hardest is just not knowing when the day is going to arrive! It could be today, tomorrow or in 2 weeks! I’m sure it must be even more difficult with a child to look after at the same time!

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  1. Urgh I’ve still got another 7 weeks. We’ve got so much to do over the next few weeks but I get so so tired that I have to do something and then rest. Walking around is becoming a bit of a pain. I hope you don’t have to wait much longer x

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    1. Hi Lisa! I hear ya. My list keeps growing instead of shrinking, it feels like. And boy is it exhausting near the end. I was only up for an hour this morning before I already wanted to crawl back to bed!
      I was actually just thinking to myself that I must go for a walk today…but you’re right, walking is pretty uncomfortable at this point.
      Hang in there and good luck with your upcoming birth!

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  2. Looks like you have some great strategies for coping with the rollercoaster that is the last month of pregnancy. With my second I was out and about so much more than my first as I had to go places with my first born such as school run and clubs etc and I was dreading what if my waters broke at school or similar but thankfully little one hung in and waters broke half and hour after last school run before summer holidays and I had him that night. Good luck x

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    1. Wow, that was good timing! I can imagine it must be hard being pregnant and caring for another little one, but as you said, it does help the time go by faster at least!
      Due date is 4 days away, so hopefully not much longer now!

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